Services

I will meet as many people in the family as would like an input into your loved one’s funeral. I can do this by telephone or Zoom, but I feel face to face works best. I want to know your loved one’s story – everything you are prepared to tell me – who they were, what they were, what made them unique, what made them laugh, even finding out any quirks of character they had and what their legacy is.

We will talk for as long as it takes and I will go away and write a service that is sensitive, insightful and celebratory.

Folk often say after this initial meeting how much they were dreading my visit but at the end, how cathartic and useful it was. It is, of course, part of the grieving process.

We will discuss the format, who wants a role, who would like something read for them and I can give suggestions for music and readings or poetry if needed.

I have conducted services across the South of England, in Crematoria, at gravesides, in village Halls and in back gardens.

I have conducted Harry Potter themed funerals, purple themed funerals, funerals attended by a large number of people and intimate funerals.

I will try and accommodate everything you want included. The only limit is time and imagination.

On occasion I have also met with people to help them plan their funeral. This is always an emotional meeting and incredibly humbling, but also empowering for that person to know their funeral will be “just so”.

I want the process to celebrate your loved one’s life as well as mourn their death, or passing. Hopefully there will have been more joy than sorrow in their life and I would like their funeral to reflect that.

Between us we will create a verbal end of life portrait which will help you retain lasting memories to help you carry your loved one forward in your head and heart and to help you through the grieving process.

Your loved one’s funeral will, undoubtedly, be one of the worst days of your life. Should you wish to speak at their funeral, I can help you prepare what to say, give you confidence to deliver it, step in quietly if the emotion overtakes you, and stand with you or in your eye line to help you on the day.

And lastly, the funeral isn’t about who stands at the front, delivering the service, it is about you and your loved one. But if my voice wavers, well, we’re all humans together, celebrating a special person.